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wedding runs smoothly when everyone knows what their responsibilities are, but just what is the father of the bride’s job? “A dad doesn’t have to be more than a walking ATM, but he can be more involved ... It is good for dads to recognize that the wedding and reception are more about the bride and her mother and their wishes and dreams, but he can still be involved in many ways,” said Wayne Parker, About.com’s fatherhood expert and a father of five. There’s no right or wrong way to approach father-ofthe-bride duties, said Kasey Skobel-Conyers, owner and principal designer, Bliss Wedding & Events, Cleveland, Ohio. “The best thing to do is ask him if he wants to be involved and in what things he’d like to participate. It’s also good to find out what dad’s priorities for the wedding are — specific menu items, a particular beer/wine/cocktail to offer on the bar or a favorite band/sound for the reception,” said Skobel-Conyers. Fathers usually want to meet with a wedding planner to discuss budgeting and expectations and may attend the menu tasting and entertainment meetings if these are priorities on dad’s list, she said. “One of the biggest regrets I hear from fathers of the bride is that they went deeper into

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their savings or into debt for the wedding than anyone planned,” Parker said. “Besides a budget, it is good for the bride and her parents to have a work plan that assigns the key roles to a person. Maybe dad gets assigned the wedding announcement guest list and the catering contract as primary roles while mom and bride take things like colors, dress and flowers. Whatever the division of labor, having Dad be involved will help him feel more a part of the whole thing.”

Some work, some play On the wedding day, dads can help with in many ways. “Welcoming guests to a wedding luncheon or dinner is a good role. Supervising decorating crews, making sure family members are there on time and keeping contractors like caterers to their contractual obligations are all common things fathers of the bride do on the wedding day,” Parker said. While dad is a solid presence on the big day, he shouldn’t be running errands or doing the heavy lifting but enjoying the day with his family, said Skobel-Conyers, who suggested “he might want to be sure he has a moment with his daughter before they head out to the ceremony.” “Remember that this can be an exciting and equally as emotion-filled day for the father of the bride as the mother of the bride and bride, so if dad needs a minute to collect himself or needs a minute to speak a last few words of wisdom to the

“The best thing to do is ask him if he wants to be involved and in what things he’d like to participate.” Kasey SkobelConyers

bride, please allow him to do so,” Parker said. Giving a toast is a main duty for the father of the bride. “The best toasts are not too long (five minutes or less is best), heartfelt, a little sentimental and a little funny,” Skobel-Conyers said. “Stay away from any inappropriate humor that might be embarrassing for the bride and groom,” Parker said. “Take some time to think and prepare the toast in advance and then, if you can, memorize it so that it flows well. It will be a part of the event that everyone will remember, whether it is done well or poorly.”

First dance For a simple slow first dance, “a rehearsal is probably not necessary, unless dancing is

awkward for them,” SkobelConyers said. Not great dancers? “Choose some music that can use simple steps like a waltz or a foxtrot. If they are good dancers, feel free to go for it! Lots of dads and brides today are doing choreographed dances so if you know someone who could help with that, it makes a big hit at the wedding or reception,” Parker said. Here are Parker’s top 10 father-daughter wedding dance songs: • “Butterfly Kisses,” Bob Carlisle • “When Angels Fly,” performed by Tony Ransom & The Heavenly Light Orchestra • “I Loved Her First,” Heartland • “Through the Years,” Kenny Rogers • “Always Be Your Baby,” Natalie Grant • “How Sweet It Is To Be Loved by You,” James Taylor • “The Way You Look Tonight,” Frank Sinatra • “Unforgettable,” performed by Natalie Cole • “Lullabye (Goodnight, My Angel),” Billy Joel • “My Father’s Eyes,” performed by Eric Clapton

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o matter whether you’re doing your makeup yourself or hiring a glam squad, you’ll need some tips and tricks to keep your hair and face looking and feeling beautiful throughout your wedding day. Here is some expert advice:

Long-lasting hair A bride’s hair has to contend with a variety of issues, including long days that stretch into evening, weather challenges and veil issues. Celebrity hairstylist and men’s groomer Kristan Serafino (@serafinosays) offers the following pro styling tips for long-lasting bridal hair: • Dry shampoo is the mandatory touch-up hair saver. This virtually translucent spray absorbs moisture, conceals greasy roots and is delicately scented. For bridal hair worn down: Lightly spray the roots at the crown and down the part line to absorb moisture and bring volume back to the hair. Simply spray, flip, tousle and return to the dance floor with fresh hair. For bridal hair pinned

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Prep and prime “In order to keep makeup looking great from day into the night on the wedding day, I recommend using the proper primers underneath your foundation and setting sprays. We work with Airbrush Foundation and I love to use the Smashbox Photo Finish primer underneath, and the Urban Decay All Nighter setting spray to finish.”

– Amanda Perry, chief executive officer and master stylist with Lou Stevens Glam Squad, @loustevensglamsquad

up: Lightly spray only along the nape and not into the updo hairstyle. The dry shampoo will adhere to the wispy hair along the nape to absorb oils and moisture without a powdery residue. • Whether your updo is a chignon, French twist, beehive or even a bun, to lock in the volume it is necessary to tease the hair correctly. Each section of hair should be brushed, or combed, all the way to the scalp. Any unteased hair between the scalp and the end of the tease will fall flat. • Before you shimmy on the dance floor, you must suitably shimmy your veil out of your hair. Foremost, don’t just pull the veil straight out from the hairstyle as this will certainly disturb the style and cause fly-away hair at the least. Gently and gradually shimmy the veil/hair clip from side

“My secret to long-wearing bridal makeup is to avoid eye creams, primers and heavy moisturizers that will break down makeup and cause it to fade. Choose a foundation with the words ‘long wear’ on the package. For eyes, waterproof mascara and eyeliner is a must to avoid the ‘bride of Frankenstein’ look that comes with too many tears. Finally, I mist my brides with Urban Decay’s All Nighter setting spray to further ensure the makeup will remain matte and fresh for the duration of the wedding.”

– David Maderich, celebrity makeup artist, @davidmaderich

to side until it naturally slides out. Immediately follow this procedure with a light spritz of hairspray to lay the hair back down to its original style. • Grooms: No matter how great a cut, hair needs to be styled for memorable occasions. That requires a styling product that restores the hair’s natural moisture balance without leaving it looking greasy. The purpose of using a styling product isn’t only to hold a cut/style in place, but to leave the hair with a touch of shine that reflects the angles of light. The camera will pick up the variations of light reflection, making the hair seem lustrous and healthy in the memorable pictures in the wedding album.

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emarriage is on the rise especially among Americans 55 and older, according to the Pew Research Center. Brides doing a redo of the “I do” may find choosing a wedding gown challenging, even if they know they want a dress that’s drastically different than the one they wore the first time. The bridal industry isn’t aimed solely at younger brides. Mature brides will find their options are almost endless, from ball gowns to formfitting dresses, said Jennette Kruszka, spokeswoman, Kleinfeld Manhattan. “Most wedding dresses are ageless and when it’s your wedding day, it doesn’t matter about dressing for your age,” Kruszka said. With age comes wisdom, and that includes fashion sense. “Encore brides (aka second brides) have the benefit of life experience to understand what details and styles make them look and feel their best,” said Lori Conley, divisional merchandise manager for bridal, lingerie and flower girl, David’s Bridal. “We see older brides shopping across all the brands we offer since it truly comes down to their fashion preference.

There are those that look for simplicity, perhaps because of a low-key or destination wedding locale, while there are those who want to take advantage of being the center of attention and opt for a princessworthy ball gown. It’s all about the attitude, not the age.”

Choices are endless There are really no rules or guidelines to follow when it comes to an encore dress. “It doesn’t matter of your age or how many times you tied the knot,” said Kruszka. Some choose to go the traditional route, but many second-time brides are opting for something more on trend. “Two-piece pantsuits and short rompers are very popular for the nontraditional bride looking to make a statement. They are also perfect for all the wedding occasions such as showers, rehearsal dinners and reception looks,” Kruszka said. “Sheath or collapsed A-line gowns are a great compromise for the bride who still wants to feel like a bride but doesn’t want to look like a cupcake,” Conley said. “The straighter skirt allows for an air of sophistication and fits a wide array of body types. If she doesn’t want to opt for a gown, a beautiful tea-length dress or even an elegant pantsuit are great alternatives.”

Tips Many older women gravitate toward gowns that offer coverage or support and pair them with supportive undergarments to smooth and enhance curves. “Steer clear of low backs that aren’t as compatible with bras and Spanx,” Conley said. Like most brides, encore brides opt to wear one of the hundreds of shades of ivory or champagne, the experts agreed. “To make the most of their shopping experience, brides should be prepared for their bridal shopping appointments. Kleinfeld suggests setting a budget which includes veils, headpieces, alterations and accessories. We also suggest you limit your entourage to a small group of close friends and family whose opinions you value and have your best interest at heart,” Kruszka said. The most important thing is that the bride “no matter their age, should feel empowered to wear a dress that makes them feel beautiful and special,” Conley said.

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he bride will look gorgeous on the big day, but the groom needs to dress to impress, too. Fashion trends come and go, but looking good is always in style — and that means starting with a great fit. “I believe the groom should feel just as special as the bride on their wedding day,” said Joseph Abboud, chief creative director, Tailored Brands.

A perfect fit Trends in wedding suits and tuxedos don’t change as dramatically as in wedding gowns, but good tailoring always matters. It takes time to be meticulously measured: The groom-to-be should get fitted 30 to 60 days before the event. “Get your fiancée involved and take their opinions into consideration,” Abboud said. “It should take

about two fittings. On the first visit, customers can select the style and try on tuxedos/suits for the fit. On the second visit when the garment comes in, our expert tailors will help the customer ensure the fit.” Fashion can be daunting if you don’t know the rules. For example, only about a quarter-inch of sleeve cuff should be exposed under the suit jacket sleeve, Abboud said. A professional can help with the details like getting a proper shoulder fit and how wide your belt should be. Today’s grooms are opting for form-fitting outfits with super slim or skinny pants. “The modern man is wearing a leaner, trimmer tuxedo that fits closer to the body. It’s important to have the right fit and look like you own the tuxedo,” Abboud said. As the trend pendulum swings, lapel widths have gotten slimmer, but remember the width of the lapel should be in proportion to the wearer.

“Lapels depend on your preference but notch, peak and shawl collar labels are still in style; they’re slimmer than they used to be,” Abboud said. “For a traditional look, I love the beauty and elegance of a black tuxedo. It looks good against the bride. For a more modern look, men are opting for the classic suiting style.”

Stand out, subtly Men who want to show off their individuality can chose a stylish wedding suit with mismatched options in jacket, waistcoat and trousers or play with colors. Menswear fashion follows celebrity styles, and designers are “still seeing a lot of navy on the red carpet. Lightercolored suits are also more casual and laid-back,” Abboud said. Pay attention to the season and embrace what nature presents. “An off-white dinner jacket is great for summer and gives off a casual, resort feel. Velvet dinner jackets are great for fall/winter,” Abboud said. Lastly, add personality with accent colors in pocket squares, lapels, even socks. Depending on the fold, pocket squares can be simple to sophisticated. “For a signature white pocket square, I love a square fold. A beautiful patterned silk pocket square can be tucked into your pocket as a small accent,” Abboud said.

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loral centerpieces can be simple, classic and traditional, but thinking outside the box can result in inspired creations that reflect your personality. “Your flowers should reflect you, whether it’s the color of flower you choose or your tablecloth’s pattern or color,” says Los Angelesbased Lulu Powers, “The Entertainologist.” “If you like modern then pick a modern arrangement and have that done throughout. Maybe all the tables reflect a different phase your life.” More creative ideas from Powers, author of “Lulu Powers Food to Flowers”:

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Winter greens Staying in season is on point and usually helps with the budget. In winter “use all the beautiful greens with pinecones. Write different quotes you love and have them coming out of each of the pinecones or give your guests a tag and have them write a wish for the bride and groom. You could even put it at everyone’s place with a small clothespin spraypainted to go with your wedding theme,” Powers suggested.

Skip the vases For one wedding, Powers used a collection of silver goblets and cups belonging to the bride’s grandmother. “We used all shades of

purple flowers because it was the bride’s favorite color, with low candles. It was simple and stunningly beautiful,” Powers said. For fall weddings, use vegetables or gourds to put flowers in. “For one client who basically wanted the tablescape to look like a cutting garden, we made a long wood trough that we filled with dirt and did the whole table by color,” Powers said. Each individual flower was held with a water pick and in the middle was an herb garden. “It’s just different and definitely a conversation starter,” she said.

Forget the flowers Centerpieces don’t have to be floral. Candles look beautiful and add romance. “Save every clear glass bottle you have (or

“For one client who basically wanted the tablescape to look like a cutting garden, we made a long wood trough that we filled with dirt and did the whole table by color.” Lulu Powers

order online) and use to put candles in and fill your table. Use higher and lower candles. The glow is amazing,” Powers said. Fruit, branches, books and objets d’art are creative alternative centerpieces.

“You could do an edible tablescape with grapes, strawberries, nuts, whole walnuts with crackers, branches of kumquats, pomegranates – which can be messy when cut open but look fabulous – dried fruit, breads, cheeses, boards of meat. It’s so fun. Another one is a tablescape with all edible fruits of the season, whether it be peaches, pears, persimmons … use an abundance and make your table look full,” Powers said. For a sweet centerpiece of candy use various-sized glass vases and silver stands filled with different kinds of treats. Decorate with gold foil-covered chocolate coins all around the candy jars and dishes, Powers said. A healthier alternative is a crudite tablescape, with raw vegetables cut in different lengths or sizes. Use metal cookie cutters to trim vegetables into floral shapes and skewer them on long sticks, covering the stick with a scallion, Powers said. Let guests stroll down memory lane with a tablescape of pictures from the bride’s and groom’s childhoods in silver and gold frames in between magnolia branches down the table, Powers said. Complete your look with table coverings. Since tablecloths can be expensive to rent, consider high-end handpainted paper or simply use quality gift wrap, Powers said. Use it as a runner all down the table over a white cloth, keeping it in place with doublesided tape.

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Involving families in a wedding

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n the past second marriages were often discreet, low-key events, but today people tend to celebrate remarriage with great enthusiasm. If the big day involves two adults with children, there’s even more reason to make the wedding a family affair. There really are no rules for including children from previous relationships in the wedding. Instead go with what works for your family depending on the ages of the children and how much they want to be involved. “It can be a good idea to include children” in the wedding ceremony and a good step toward a happy future, “as long as you can do it without imposing your expectations” on them, said Susan Stiffelman (Susan Stiffelman.com) a marriage and family therapist and author of “Parenting with Presence” and “Parenting without Power Struggles.”

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“It can be a good idea to include children, as long as you can do it without imposing your expectations.” therapist and author Susan Stiffelman

Be OK with feelings While the bride and groom may be over the moon about their impending nuptials, there’s no guarantee that their children feel the same way. Not only is it completely nor-

mal not to feel an instant loving family connection, it can take as long as four years for stepchildren and stepparents to feel comfortable with one another, according to the National Stepfamily Resource Center. “As parents, you’re the anchor in their lives,” Stiffelman said. “Don’t push too hard. You can say, ‘I want you to be a part of it as much or as little as you want to be involved.’ Understand children might be dealing with different feelings in the days before and after the wedding. Be conscious that kids may have hard feelings that are difficult to reconcile,” Stiffelman said. Don’t make them feel guilty if they don’t feel a certain way about the wedding, and don’t push your expectations on them, Stiffelman said. Instead, “check in with them frequently. Ask them how they’re feeling,” she said. Kids may be filled with emotions but lack the words to articulate them. Instead, speak the words for them: “Grandma and grandpa are coming in town and isn’t that exciting? How are you feeling about everything that’s going on?” Stiffelman suggested.

Keep them involved There are so many ways children can be involved in the wedding, starting with the planning stages.

“Ask their opinion and listen to their input” on things such as what flowers to order, what songs to play at the reception or what colors to go with, Stiffelman said. It will give them ownership of the day and help them feel excited about it. “Make them feel that they are part of the day and the wedding. It’s not just two people getting married, it’s the blending of a family,” Stiffelman said. Some children will welcome the opportunity to be a part of the wedding party as a flower girl or ring bearer, maid of honor or best man, but not all kids will, Stiffelman said. “Be aware that children may be grappling with the issue of loyalties” and others would rather not take on such a significant role, she said. Within the ceremony, parents can make vows of love and support to each other’s children and children can respond, “We do, too.” Since it’s going to be a long day, it would be a “kind gesture” to allow children to invite a friend to attend the wedding with them, Stiffelman said. A friend can provide support and help keep a child entertained. And when it’s all over, some brides and grooms will turn the honeymoon into a family vacation.

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