eye contact whenever possible. Ask direct questions about how your child is feeling. For example, âWhat makes you sad?
Healthy Habits
Between technology-driven communication, less face time and busy schedules, it has only gotten harder to really engage with your child. Creating healthy habits, being open and having regular conversations will lead your child to be more comfortable coming to you when they have a problem or something is going wrong.
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Use open-ended questions. Avoid questions that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no.” Make eye contact whenever possible. Ask direct questions about how your child is feeling. For example, “What makes you sad?” or “What are you worried about?”. Pause and listen to what your child has to say. This will get your child in the habit of talking about his or her feelings.
Make time for uninterrupted conversation. Time spent in the car is a great opportunity to have a discussion.
8 Take interest in what interests them. Learn more about their hobbies, friends and thoughts.
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HOW TO DISCUSS TOUGH SUBJECTS WITH YOUR KIDS
Let your child know you’re there for them. Reinforce that you are available and interested.
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Avoid an extreme reaction. If your child shares an experience or concern that is shocking, being open and receptive to anything they tell you will make them feel comfortable coming to you with problems.
4 Set aside time for one-on-one activities with each child. Ensuring each child gets a parent’s undivided attention will allow him or her to open up without feeling judged by their siblings. Make it as simple as walking the dog together or watching their favorite TV show with them.
6 Don’t always try to relate your child’s experience to your own. Regularly reflecting on what happened in the past may make the child feel like you’re discrediting their current situation.
5 Identify a code word with your child. Your child can use this word in front of others to indicate they’re uncomfortable. Agree in advance that the code word is a way for them to say “I need your help” without them having to use those words.
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