I'll pull out in time. â don't worry. Pulling out isn't safe. I could still get pregnant. And what about STIs? You say
Knowing how to communicate effectively with your partner helps you stay safe by avoiding unplanned pregnancy as well as HIV and STI infection. It also prevents you being pushed into doing things you are uncomfortable with or that may hurt you. Overleaf are suggestions for how to respond in a responsible way to some things your partner might say. Saying ‘No’ can be hard, but learning how helps you stay healthy, happy and in control of your life choices. We’ve divided the responses into male and female because the issues for boys and girls may differ.
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